Posted by Gina.
Whew Chile! Bonnie Erbe is back on the march and this time she went IN! She went in all the way! In a post that is critical of President Obama’s golfing and basketball activities that do not include women, Ms. Erbe compared Presiden Barack Obama to former NC Senator Jesse Helms and then tops off her criticism by calling Michelle Obama a “stepford wife”
“Whether it was his treatment of Hillary Clinton on the campaign trail (as in his condescending remark that she was “likeable enough”) or his clearly career-oriented mate who has been toned down and remorphed into a Stepford Wife, I just don’t get the impression this man is comfortable with women. Nor do I believe he cares about them beyond needing women’s votes. It’s an act and a thoroughly see-through, amateur one at that.” US News & World Report
Oh no she didn’t-Oh. Yes. She. Did!
Would it be “catty” for me to tell Bonnie to “retract the claws?”
Now when Michelle Obama was her husband’s most high profile political surrogate on the campaign trail, she caught pure unadulterated HELL! Y’all do remember that Democratic primary, back before the Black Elite Establishment made up their minds about which race horse they wanted to back in this race? Y’all remember those days when she was one of the few people who could pull a crowd other than her husband? Back then when folks online and on talk radio were swilling and spilling all kinds of hateraid at Michelle Obama, I don’t recall prominent “feminists” running to her aid to say “Um, no fair!” Heck, even the campaign didn’t defend her in any credible coherent way, settling instead for letting people like the NY Times to imply that Michelle Obama needed a “makeover.” Y’all do remember those days when they threw her out on the trail to speak about her husband’s smelly socks and failure to place the butter in the proper compartment?
Well NOW all of a sudden these folks who let her be a political punching bag are trashing her for “playing it safe.”
In my opinion, NO POLITICAL SPOUSE, male or female, should have a prominent role in policy making. If they want to run something then they need to campaign and run themselves. Whether that’s Michelle Obama or Todd Palin, if we didn’t elect you stick to informal influence.
But what exactly is Michelle Obama doing now that she wasn’t doing at the University of Chicago? She was doing community outreach then and that’s what she is doing now.
Its no wonder she prefers the company of children. She’s not the first Politician or political spouse to seek the safety of children as opposed to mean spirited adults. Furthermore, why does Ms. Erbe INSIST that the only “career” is working for someone else? Was my Grandmother a Stepford wife because she stayed home? Is Ms. Erbe more important because she didn’t?
If you want Michelle Obama to do more, then you had better dayum well indicate that you’ll back her if she decides to head in a different direction. At the end of the day, Michelle Obama is on her own. She’s willing to take one for the team and the Ms. Erbe’s of the world will sit on the sidelines when she comes under attack for taking too high profile a role on policy matters. Better to be a Stepford Wife than a Cowardly Lion-ess. MEOW!
Posted by Gina

18 Comments, Comment or Ping
Bea
I concur Gina.
I am really sick and tired of these radio talk show and media “air/bubble/empty” heads. I have learned that when you are on the right track, the haters will come out from all sides to bring you down. So what she put her career on hold to support her husband. So what she is “mom in chief” My mother stayed home to nurture 4 of her 5 children while dad went out to work. And just for the record my mom and dad were legally married and intact for 17 years until he died. I had to throw that in b/c some people think the majority of African-american households are single parent/ no father/thugs and drug runners and that is not the case.
Mrs. Obama is doing what apparently God has called her to do and be and she cannot do less than that. I love that she is being authentic and genuine unlike the trolls and backstabbers/backbiters/haters that so infiltrate these blogs.
So people like Ms. Erbe and others need to get off of their fat keisters and give involved with community service activities like Mrs. O, me and so many others.
You know sometimes, you just have to not entertain fools and their foolishness. It’s best to go about daily tasks and honor the Lord in what we do in spite of the naysayers and the backbiters. We must let our positive actions in our homes and communities speak louder than the empty barrels of the “noise in the system.”
Oct 29th, 2009
Mrs. Polly
So glad to have found your blog. Bonnie Erbe, along with her buddy Amy Siskind, is a rabid, dead-end Hillary Clinton, well, I can’t say “supporter,” since Hillary has GOTTEN OVER IT (excuse the shouting) and moved on.
In other words, they’re PUMAs. You remember the PUMAs? They are faux-feminists who simply hate Obama and everything connected with him. They’re also unaware of the irony that they are doing to Michelle EXACTLY what was done to Hillary, and complaining of the same things (now she’s too involved, now she’s not involved enough). And the ultimate irony is if you mindlessly oppose everything about someone, then you are ultimately completely controlled by him.
You may see Amy Siskind on Bonnie’s PBS show, and Bonnie’s ridiculous clump of words which some might call an “article” is cross posted at The New Agenda. Amy doesn’t care who she cozies up to, since she also cross posts at No Quarter, the racist blog which originated the Whitey Tape Smear. Yes! And links to it, too!
They are both pieces of work, and whatever failings real organized feminists may have (I’m just a disorganized single feminist), the New Agenda is NOT a feminist group. It’s a Siskindian culty PUMA group.
BTW, about Michelle? She’s spectacular. What a great First Family. I don’t agree with what the president does sometimes, but I’m always, always glad they’re in the White House.
Oct 29th, 2009
Kirsty Kristi
Bonnie Erbe and people like her will always be critics why should we even waste our time talking about her? She is childish and screaming for attention. Thank God FLOTUS is doing what is best for her family and making history!
Oct 29th, 2009
Patty Jones
As long as FLOTUS & POTUS are happy and fulfilling their purpose who cares what Bonnie whatever her name is thinks?
Oct 29th, 2009
pepper
I’m go sick of these feminists. They only see one agenda and its theirs. But as a black woman being a Stepford wife is a complement. When have we ever not had to take care of the family? She is experiencing what many black women don’t have the luxury of doing; have a man take care of the family and be a trophy wife, wearing expensive clothes and doing work around the community. Feminists don’t understand that black women and white women face different things. While they are trying to get into the workforce, black women have ALWAYS worked.
Oct 29th, 2009
Tia
The feminist complaining about Obama are mainly aging angry White women from the 60’s. Now, they are comparing Obama to Jesse Helms…WTF the man has tons of women in his cabinet. There stupid complaint of him playing basket ball without a damn women involved is retard. No wonder no one takes the feminist movement serious…
Oct 29th, 2009
Bonnie Erbe Should Become A Stepford Wife
Gina is right these feminists didn’t come to the FL defence when she was attacked. Where were the feminist during the scandal with the Rutgers womens basketball team? Where are the feminist against the protrayal of women in hip hop? Was Bonny on the frontlines of these issues? I wonder why not since she cares about women so much?
What’s this about her not doing enough and not working? Most people work because they haft to NOT because they want to. She don’t haft to besides this woman had a long career before becoming FL so now why can’t she take time to do what SHE wants to do?
Bonny says she don’t get the impression that the president is comfortable with women. I get the impression that Bonnie and the ones who think like her isn’t comfortable with the FL and the Pres. She’s the FL she gets to set her agenda. The FL is doing well and i only hope that she does what makes her happy since she wasn’t elected to do anything for our nation.
What Pepper said is so true and people haft to take these things into consideration. Besides in the old days, the ones that were fighting for women rights they didn’t even have women like michelle obama in mind when they were fighting for those rights even though the michelle obamas of this country was already working and they are still working.
Oct 29th, 2009
Aminah Hanan
Bonnie is simply doing what the feminist movement has done for years, make strides in the name of women and then slam the door in Black women’s faces that they have used to further their agenda. That’s why I cringe every time I hear a Black woman call herself a feminist. Why not a Womanist?
Someone as educated as the First Lady, coming where she comes from, can never be a Stepford wife. It’s just not genetically possible. These bitter Beckys are just stirring the pot trying to come up with anything. If Michelle looked more like the woman they think that should be beside the first Black president you wouldn’t hear a word. The First Lady is shattering stereotypes and it’s frightening even to those that have been victims of this type of mental oppression.
@Pepper I know plenty of Black women who would be considered “Stepford Wives”. They didn’t take the feminist blue pill in the 60’s, lived within their means, and took care of their children and homes. The First Grandmother is an example of that tradition and there are still many of us out here today.
Oct 29th, 2009
SANDI
BONNIE WHO? AND, WHAT HAS SHE DONE AND WHO CARES?
Oct 29th, 2009
daryl sledge
Bonnie,
Stop the racism and be a women champion for all women and not White women only. Ok! Let’s stop sugar-coating BS and call it for it for what it is.
Oct 30th, 2009
rikyrah
you nailed it. she is absolutely ridiculous. my eyes were about to explode at the mere thought of Barack Obama and JESSE HELMS being in the same sentence, and then she had to ‘ go there’ and insult the First Lady.
Oct 30th, 2009
Lynne
Gawd, when will these pumas get over it?
Oct 30th, 2009
Maggie Knowles
I don’t get that about the Obamas at all. They seem like a normal family and the President and First Lady seem to really get along and love each other. When President Obama makes speeches in the Middle East, he always mentions how important equal rights for women are and one of the first things he did as President was sign the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act.
I wonder what’s motivating Bonnie Erbe? Why does she feel the need to say things that aren’t true? How does it benefit her?
Regarding some comments here on the Stepford Wives, I saw that movie and it wasn’t about staying home and taking care of the kids. It was about losing your “self” and becoming an empty shell that only serves a master. To me Stepford wives is about slavery, it’s about husbands who want a women who will serve their every desire, no reciprocation. Like the serial killer Leonard Lake who said he wanted a woman he could take off the shelf, have sex with, and put back on the shelf when done.
I know stay-at-home moms who are intelligent, independent thinkers who could never be considered a Stepford wife, but they could be considered feminists because they believe in equal relationships.
Oct 30th, 2009
emma
Dear Bonnie,
I get the impression that you are uncomfortable with Barack Obama being POTUS and Michelle Obama being FLOTUS. I also get the impression that you need to seek professional help for the condition known as being a PUMA. Get over it! Oh, and your whiteness is showing. A good many black women would love to be happy housewives since damn near all of us have been working very hard since slavery.
Oct 31st, 2009
anne
Why would you all give pumas a bad name? They are beautiful, graceful creatures; they never attack first except to eat, and they mind their own business; there are male and female pumas—literally and figuratively—but there I went, using these beautiful animals as a metaphor for meaness, unhappiness, cowardice and other energies and behaviors that pumas–the ones in the wild– probably, do not do in order to make a living.
Oct 31st, 2009
Dee
I am now completely convinced that Ms. Erbe and her ilk are not going to make it through President Obama’s tenure without losing what appears to be the little that is left of their minds!
This lady doesn’t seem to get that making ever more inane comments, and constantly reminding us that she disapproves of the First Lady’s life choices doesn’t make her any more credible or right than the last time she was spouting similar foolishness….
Nov 1st, 2009
tipper
I think it is on target! MO is exactly a stepford wife! perfect comparison.
Nov 2nd, 2009
Dee
“I think it is on target! MO is exactly a stepford wife! perfect comparison.”
On the basis of what exactly, Tipper, may I ask? Care to elaborate?
Nov 3rd, 2009